Ah, the magical date night. When my kids were younger, I thought they were completely elusive. I thought that as my kids got older, they would be easier to come by. Nope. We are busier than ever now, with my kids being in activities and socializing. At home date nights have been a godsend for us.
While at home date nights might not be as exciting as a night out, it has certainly become a fun way to spend time with my husband. It gives us time to focus on each other, to not be buried in work, or our phones, or chores. It’s so important to keep your connection as a couple going, because that will reflect in your everyday life– and on your parenting and your relationship with your kids. It will lessen your stress, it will make you happier. The benefits are endless.
If you can’t find a babysitter, or you want to have some fun on the cheap, or it’s just too damn cold to go outside, at home date nights are your answer.
Here are my rules for at home date nights:
Have a plan.
Sounds basic, but hear me out– if you don’t have some sort of plan for what you’re going to do, you’re just going to end up not having your date night. You’ll resort to cleaning the linen closet. Have a game plan and stick to it the best you can.
I want to stay awake and enjoy the date night, so I have caffeine (usually a cup of coffee) late in the day (later than I normally would.) This is a must if you’re going to watch a movie!
Put down your smartphone, put away the tablet, shut down your laptop. It’s time to focus on each other, and you don’t need any distractions.
Look the Part
As soon as I get home for the day, and have no plans to go anywhere, I am in my pajamas. If we’re having an at home date night, that rule goes out the window. If I look good, I feel good. Plus, it will feel special– my husband is used to seeing me in my pajamas 95% of the time at home!
I always like to have some fun food or snacks for the date night, depending on what I’m doing. Chocolate covered strawberries, a dessert, or even a meal that we didn’t serve the kids (maybe take out that they wouldn’t like) are all good options.
Date Night Ideas
- Movies – an obvious option and HOLY CRAP a chance to see a movie that isn’t rated G! Or animated!
- Cook – cooking together is always fun! Or you can make something that you’ve never made before ( like ice cream, or whoopie pies, or some other random, fun thing.)
- Dinner – just a dinner for the two of you only is great.
- Board games – Scrabble, Chess, Uno, Jenga, etc.
- Video games
- Massages – get a book and practice on each other
- Fondue – you can get some chocolate, some cheese, and some fun stuff to dip.
- Spa Night at home
- Stargaze – bring your cocktails outside and enjoy a night under the stars.
At home date nights aren’t a full on replacement for a fun night out, but they’re still a great way to spend some quality time with your husband when you just can’t get out of the house.